Hope By The Sea's Family Program
Self Test For Family Members
At Hope By The Sea’s California drug rehab, it is our belief that drug and alcohol addiction affects families as a whole. Successful healing and recovery requires more than just treatment and education for the addicted individual. Research and experience tell us that family involvement in recovery is imperative to understand the complexities of addiction. Our intensive three-day Family Program focuses on educating, empowering and supporting families who want to be best prepared to help their loved one be successful in their recovery. Our approach to recovery is action and solution-oriented.
Families come to Hope By The Sea wanting to know how they can “fix” their loved one. Families need to realize that while they are powerless over their loved one’s substance abuse and behavior and cannot change it, they can change themselves. We encourage family members to find a solution for themselves and begin their own recovery. By taking care of ‘self’ they become the best aid in the recovery of both their loved one and themselves.
There are times when the addicted person refuses to participate in any treatment program. Even in this situation, families are encouraged to attend our Family Program to embrace their own healing and recovery needs. It is not unusual for the family to seek help first, and for their loved one to follow.
When addiction is involved, it becomes impossible to maintain a healthy, functioning family system. Family members are affected physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually. As the destructive progression of the disease progresses, many family members become so focused on their loved one that they lose the ability to take care of themselves.
Physically, you may suffer from stress-related illnesses. You may not be eating well, sleeping well or exercising.
Mentally, you can become obsessed, preoccupied and forgetful. You may have a hard time concentrating because of worrying or racing thoughts. You can also develop mental defenses similar to the addict or alcoholic, such as denial and minimization.
Emotionally, you may be anxious, fearful, depressed, lonely, angry and overwhelmed, but the common way for dealing with these feelings is to bury them. Burying feelings can result in physical problems and overreacting to minor incidents because of a buildup of unresolved tension.
Socially, you might withdraw and become isolated, ceasing to participate in activities and hobbies that were once enjoyable. You can become disconnected from yourself, others and life.
Spiritually, you might find yourself violating your values to protect the addict or alcoholic and over time begin to lose faith, hope and a purpose for living.
The goals of our Family Program are to:
- Learn about addiction as a disease concept
- Identify family roles in addiction
- Recognize and prevent enabling addictive behaviors
- Move past denial, shame, guilt and fear
- Define and conceptualize codependence
- Practice healthy methods of conflict resolution
- Establish healthy boundary systems
- Create a relapse prevention plan
- Practice Al-Anon recovery principles
- Promote ongoing recovery and healing
The format of our program consists of multiple families in a group setting. This type of group allows participants to be able to share openly with each other without the typical emotional reactions and conflict which often occur within a chemically dependent family system. As a result, participants are able to gain deeper awareness and understanding of each other. Each participant shares at the level he or she feels comfortable. By sharing their feelings and experiences, participants form meaningful connections with one another and begin to realize they are not alone.
Family members receive information about the process of recovery embodied in the 12 Steps of Al-Anon. As a way to prepare for Family Program, we encourage you to attend Al-Anon meetings and learn how those steps provide a path for personal recovery. At these meetings, members share their experience, strength and hope with others who have similar difficulties. Support and often-times lifelong friendships are forged during these critical passages in a family’s struggle with addiction.
We realize the road to recovery is fragile, but with support, patience and an open heart, great strides can be made in a short period of time. We invite you to visit our facility, feel the serene and friendly environment, and get to know our staff and treatment plans. We are here to help you. To learn more about our Family Program or to register, please call 866.930.HOPE (4673).
Participation
Our program is extended to anyone who has a loved one in active addiction or recovery. Having a loved one in treatment at Hope By The Sea is not a requirement for participation. Our program is best suited to persons aged 13 and older, including but not limited to a spouse, partner, parents, children, siblings, other relatives and close friends.
Schedule
Our Family Program is a three-day weekend program and is offered once a month. The program begins at 10:30am on Friday and concludes at 5:00pm on Sunday. Participants are expected to attend all three days. The program is sequential in nature and each session builds on the material covered in the previous session.
For families who have loved ones participating in treatment services with Hope By The Sea, there is no cost for up to 3 family members, and each additional family member is $150. For families who do not have loved ones attending treatment with Hope By The Sea, the cost is $500 per family (up to 3 participants), and each additional participant is $150. Space is limited, so advanced registration is required. We accept cash, checks and credit cards. If payment is required for your particular situation, full payment is due a minimum of 10 days prior to the program date. Cancellations received less than 10 days in advance are non-refundable; however you may reschedule for another program date. Questions and other financial arrangements can be discussed with Cyndie Dunkerson, V.P of Admissions, at 949-715-7773 or cyndie@hopebythesea.com.
Confidentiality
This is a confidential program. Who you see and what is said is of a personal nature and is information that is not to be revealed to anyone. An atmosphere of trust is crucial to allow participants to begin to open up and gain the emotional support of their peers. If you learn something that is going to enhance your living, we encourage you to share this information with others.
Accommodations
For your convenience, Hope By The Sea has partnered with the following hotels. Some of these hotels will offer discount rates when you mention Hope By The Sea when making your reservation.
Hotel Accommodations
Doubletree Suites By Hilton
Reserve Online: Click here to make reservation
Reserve by phone use Client ID # 0002772379
34402 Pacific Coast Highway
Dana Point, CA 92629
949.661.1100
Laguna Cliffs Marriott Resort & Spa (No discount is available)
25135 Park Lantern
Dana Point, CA 92629
949.661.5000
Best Western Capistrano Inn
27174 Ortega Highway
San Juan Capistrano, CA 92675
949.493.5661
Fairfield Inn
26328 Oso Parkway
Mission Viejo, CA 92691
949.582.7100
Residence Inn San Juan Capistrano (No discount is available)
33711 Camino Capistrano
San Juan Capistrano, CA 92675
949.443.3600
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